Internal or External and Happiness

What do you need in order to truly be happy?

Buying a new dress makes you feel happy, right? Well, that's external. And what if you can't get the new dress? Does that make you unhappy?

In Breakfast at Tiffany's the guy says you've gotta face facts about life and that people fall in love and it's the only way you have a chance of ever really being happy.

Falling in love with someone. Is that external or internal?

It's probably both but first, lets say it's external.

To fall in love with someone, you need the someone. Without that someone, you will not be able to fall in love. What if that someone never comes along? That means the externality of "someone" is needed in order to fall in love. So it's external.

But falling in love is an emotion, sort of. It's something that happens internally.

OK, ready to hear what I think?

Yes, external things can help make you happy but it's ALL about your internal state that will actualize an external experience into the happiness.

That is why, one person will need to eat gourmet while someone else can eat a piece of bread with butter (yum!) and both could be equally happy. It's all about the internal.

I believe happiness is internal. External things can help. Like, Isaac showing such appreciation for me. Almost falling in love with me (as he said), telling me how beautiful I am, helped. It made me feel good which made me feel happier than I had been.

But it was never enough because of how I feel inside.

Man, I feel like it's so hard for me to explain and I actually don't feel able to right now. Especially since it's a bit late, I'm tired, and I wanna go to sleep.

I'll just end with one question. If someone is very poor or the love of their life died, or something very sad like that, is it possible for them to "still" be happy?

QE