Thursday, January 26, 2006

Are weddings fun? And probably a bit on dating too (how not?)

Just went to a wedding. Not a very close friend but a sweet girl. Supposedly she met the guy online. Cute. They seem really nice and happy together. I was even emotional at the wedding ceremony, which often, if I'm not close to the couple, I'm not really touched by it. But they really are cute or something. It was nice to see them together.

But, I don't necessarily enjoy weddings. And rightfully so. I had to go to this one all alone. Thank G-d I knew more people there than I'd imagined. And I actually had a better time than I thought I was gonna have. But I wasn't sat with any of my friends. That might be the worst part, having to sit with strangers.

But no, they weren't all strangers. There was the girl I sort of new (the only other single girl at the table) and the guy I went out on a date with a few months ago. Thank G-d he wasn't one of those uncomfortable guys. All in all, he's nice and normal. So we just talked a bit. But not comfy womfy, to say the least.

The dancing also wasn't so much fun for me because I'm not so close with the bride. But I did dance and she was really cool and fun so it made it exciting. She just kept going and going!

It's quite hilarious. When I told the nice boy that I'm going to a wedding, he immediately said to me, "Soon by you." Sigh, I'm in love. I mean, till I meet someone with that straightforwardness like what I have. And if I totally got immediately that he was joking big-time. I mean, what more can you ask for? Right away I answered, "Oh, thank you so much. Amen. Soon by you too!" and then we started talking about people saying that to you at weddings and how he doesn't really like weddings so much. Maybe because they freak him out. Too funny.

One of my pet peeves is excessive alcohol drinking. So, when he said that he thinks at weddings when you aren't having a good time, at least there is free alcohol. You should take a bottle of wine, sit at a table in the corner and drink. I didn't tell him I don't find that funny even if he's not really serious. Instead I said, "That's when they stop saying 'Soon by you' and start just looking at you and frowning."

It is a beautiful thing when I meet someone with whom I feel I can act funny and they actually get it.

I have 2 main reservations at this point, regarding the nice boy. Firstly, I'm worried I'm gonna be totally unattracted to him. Secondly, I'm worried he's too negative for me.

About the 1st, you know, my dream was always to meet a guy who got better and better looking to me as I got to know him and fall in love with him. It's amazing to see if that will happen or not. Because sometimes I go out with guys who I think immediately are cute and other times, not at all. We'll see what happens with Mr. Nice Guy.

The other worry is about his negativity. See, we kept on laughing about negative things. Like, being the middle child (we both are). Getting used to the harsh culture where we live. His job. Truth is, he doesn't sound very motivated, to say the least. That makes me very nervous. If the guy can't figure out what type of job is good for him, with which he is able to stick long-term. He mentioned that he's "retired" a few times already. He's 30 years old. I'm not sure he's enjoying his current job very much but he was sure to tell me he can't see himself "retiring" for a while, this time. I guess that's good. : /

Let me just say, for the record, that I totally have a crush on him. I wish I could talk to him right now. I really enjoyed talking to him! We so totally seemed on the same wave length. Really cool.

He thanked me again, when we spoke on the phone, for emailing him. He said something about it being really cool. I can't tell you exactly what adjective he used because I was so nervous about getting a compliment that I was too busy being defensive. I said, "Yes, I'm the bravest person in the world." It came out harsh and I wish I hadn't said it. I wish I could just take the compliment. I must learn to take compliments. He really liked that I emailed him to ask him out. Geez, just accept that, man! : )

Did you even notice I love the word "geez?" : ) I really do!

Queen Esther

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